The concept of marriage has changed over time.In most of families still the concept of arrange marriage is prominent. They still don't want their children to b married to the love of their life. The whole taboo behind this is WHAT WILL SOCIETY THINK? Society is made by us, we the people make society and if norms of this society drives our happiness away from us then there is no place for such society in our lives. Parents feel ashamed just because their daughter or son is in love with someone else. Family members speak ill of the girl or the boy and don't let them to marry their love just because they were not able to marry the person they loved. When it is the time for parents to stand for their children, they stand against them just because of the stupid remarks or comments made by society. If happiness of children matters the most to their family, instead of leaving the girl or boy alone they should stand with them and fight against the whole world.
Love marriage or arrange marriage
How can we marry a person just after meeting the person once or twice, It takes years to know about a person and our parents wants us to decide after one meeting or two.We know our parents won't choose a wrong person for us but if by chance they choose the wrong one. What if he is not the person she wanted , what if he don't understand her, what if he don't value her and what if he is not the one for her. She live her whole life in despair and darkness and shatter each day. She now blame her family for what happened to her, the society blames her family for what they did to her, no one will be there to empathize them and they will be the culprit not the society.They will be unhappy not the society, society or people will just mock them.
On the other hand if she is allowed to marry the person she love, she knows about the boy, his family. She will be happy and if anything happens to her, she know it'z her mistake not her parents or family.She know his strength his weakness and he knows everything about her. People will speak but forget after few days months or years but girl is happy and that is more important.
Maybe reverse may happen, arrange marriage may be more successful than love one. May be the person parents choose was far better than the one she loved. And she is more happy with the person she is married to rather than the person she use to cry all nights and she thought she was in love with.
Parents must always consider their children choice first. If the person is right and they know he or she can keep their child happy they must let them marry without thinking of the society or people after all it'z there children happiness what matters to them most. And if the person is not right they should make their children understand instead of forcing them to marry someone else.And believe me they will marry the person of their parents choice, after all for every child, smile of his or her parents matters the most.
Love cum Arranged or Arranged cum Love . Still confused.
A funny line quoted by most of the youngsters nowadays " It is better to marry your own boyfriend or girlfriend rather than marrying someone else "
Arranged marriage has a bunch of disadvantages ! Its like we are on are own after marriage !
ReplyDeletePresently I have seen many couples who marry for love and get divorced. LOL.
You could take hollywood for an example. 17 years of marriage, 4 years of marriage, 2 months of marriage and 2 weeks of marriage ending up in divorce !
I wish they din't make a joke of marriage by bonding on the term love* and separating when commitment calls.
Whereas arranged marriage calls for commitment and understanding.
I just have this thingy , I think arranged marriage is much better option then love marriage.
Maybe because Indians oppose to Love marriage.Or its because the Damn society is going to fuck up with us if we marry the one we love.
But when we are marrying on terms where everyone is happy , we stand a fair chance where we could rely on our parents because they chose the partner for us, or maybe it is a thrill marrying a stranger LOL.
Arranged marriage is a win win for me.
WHOA ! That is one big comment there !
hahahahah.. well sometimes arrange marriage too end in divorce..marrying on terms where everyone is happy except you ,aumm i guess then there is no point of leading such a relationship because you will never be happy with that person.. relationships are based on trust, mutual respect and love .we may fall in love with the person we are married but there is no surety we will actually fall in love with a stranger, We cant force us to love someone. love marriage may end in divorce as u said in hollywood but since childhood we are taught moral values.We are molded in such a way we know how to respect relationship. We know what commitment is and its not like that only in arrange marriage we are committed to each other when commitment calls we stand with each other against the whole world even in love marriage..
Deleteitz just upon our thinking :)
thnkew for sharing your thoughts :)